Why Is Shipping So Mean?

I haven't cussed at toi if you're talking about me. ou are toi talking about the other sites? The most I do is respond stating my opinion. And I don't aim to make toi feel bad when doing so. So if I do offend you, give me a heads up, I'll stop (half the time I don't even realize I offended anyone) so please don't instantly "OMG ur so mean and rude" ou get a bunch of people to come yell at me. Just talk to me. And that request wasn't targeted towards toi it was just in general to any Zutarian/Kataanger here. Odds are we don't mean to offend each other. Secondly whilst toi have one person cussing at toi I feel a bit disrespected too, as whenever I post anything pro-kataang I have at least 3 people yelling at me saying you're wrong ou KATAANG SUCKS!!! And it's all at once. I always feel like I'm fighting 3 against one and it's really kind of unfair and hurtful. Once again I'm not trying to hate on toi ou anyone in particular.

The reasons I think it gets so out of hand are;
- People here have strong opinions and they take them too far ou too seriously, that's a problem I've seen with the fandom (and a lot of other fandoms) as a whole.
- On the other end of the spectrum there are people who don't take opinions outside their own seriously enough. They feel that their opinion is the right one and don't even try to see it the other way around. They confuse opinion with fact.
- Then there are those who just don't respect others' opinions. It takes one person to respond to a commentaire like 'Kataang/Zutara is so cool' with a commentaire like "No Kataang/Zutara is stupid" to start a giant fight. Usually after one insult flies the other rebuttals with "No, *opposing side* is stupid". All I have to say for this one is please everyone kataanger ou zutarian don't call the other side names, it doesn't help prove your point, if anything it makes the opposing side less likely to agree.
- Another biggy, common for anything typed on the net is false assumptions ou misinterpretations. Something like what I typed in the first paragraph can be interpreted as an insult when really I was just meaning to make a statement we can talk about. I hope toi don't mind me using our expirance as an example. Another example is that when I was debating with prettybender one of her Friends thought I was picking on her and started yelling at me. It got messy because he/she thought I was trying to bully her even though I only meant for a mature debate. That would be an example of both false assumption and misinterpretation. A great example of misinterpretation is some one typing 'I think Kataang/Zutara is better because *long liste of reasons*.' While the person may have intended to come off as calm and sophisticated one can interpret it as a bateau load of sassy and know it allish. An example of false assumption would be 'she/he hates me because I'm a Kataanger/Zutarian.
- Which leads me to another huge one; People here often take things too personally. I'm guilty of it too.