read these tips on how toi can ruin a rendez-vous amoureux, date so toi can avoid ruining one in the future.
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things par bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If toi really feel toi need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a plus specific statement like, "For the last week ou so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do toi see it?" par staying low-key, toi may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears toi badmouth the way toi look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. toi could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! toi look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make toi feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related questions in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds toi attractive. ou that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to poisson for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious questions like, "Do toi like my hair this way?" ou "Does this dress look dumb?" ou "Do toi notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT douche toi WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) jouer la comédie LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If toi think guys notice girls who drink ou do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a bière in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind toi want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help toi figure out what toi find appealing about someone ou help toi to avoid making the same mistake twice. But toi don't need to fill your rendez-vous amoureux, date in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such commentaires only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your rendez-vous amoureux, date started comparing toi to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when toi point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. ou cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
toi may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If toi find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, ou be plus popular, ou whatever), consider whether it could be toi who needs to change. toi may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your cœur, coeur — and your relationship — good!
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things par bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If toi really feel toi need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a plus specific statement like, "For the last week ou so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do toi see it?" par staying low-key, toi may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears toi badmouth the way toi look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. toi could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! toi look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make toi feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related questions in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds toi attractive. ou that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to poisson for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious questions like, "Do toi like my hair this way?" ou "Does this dress look dumb?" ou "Do toi notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT douche toi WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) jouer la comédie LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If toi think guys notice girls who drink ou do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a bière in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind toi want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help toi figure out what toi find appealing about someone ou help toi to avoid making the same mistake twice. But toi don't need to fill your rendez-vous amoureux, date in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such commentaires only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your rendez-vous amoureux, date started comparing toi to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when toi point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. ou cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
toi may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If toi find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, ou be plus popular, ou whatever), consider whether it could be toi who needs to change. toi may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your cœur, coeur — and your relationship — good!
