How toi deal with conflict based on your personality type?

Substances, self harm, and unhealthily escapism because my personality type is Borderline personality disorder

1.Calculation

2.Head-on

3.Avoidance

Generally the ways I handle most conflicts.

I usually run to Riku and tell her the other kids were mean to me.

With family members: Insist I'm right until my dying breath
With everyone else: Completely non-confrontational

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