I don’t care which ship toi sail on; toi need to take a step back and look at Elena’s situation objectively. She can’t totally abandon ship (pun not intended, I swear) until she knows there’s no chance of getting back what they once had.
Elena STILL needs to get over her relationship with Stefan and what they had is GONE! Poor girl, first l’amour taken away from her. They never even officially broke up! as a wise man once a dit “It’s right, but not right now.”