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my boyfriend is hardcore pressuring me for sex?

yea so titre says a lot of it. I'm 14, he's 15

and we've been dating for almost 9 months. we go to different high schools, so we pretty much only see each other nights and weekends. he is super impulsive, serisoly.

and he's been talking about sex for like a month, but recently, he's become plus aggressive/pushy. like if we were kissing, he would get ontop of me (which is pretty normal) except he will like kind of hold me down and start doing stuff. if I tell him to stop he stops what he's doing but doesn't move, he justs tries to talk me into it. he also has started s’embrasser me up against the door. and he holds my shoulders/hips then to.

it's getting a little scary, I have bruises along my arms from him and on my hips. he just doesn't déplacer if I tell him. I've started avoiding being alone with him but I can't do that forever. what should I do? what do I say? I know this sounds niave but I really like him and I want to avoid breaking up with him if it's possible.

 northlover posted il y a plus d’un an
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
Your bf is really really horny and pushing limits-ones he may not be able to stop ou control ou even stop himself and get control. Bottomline, graphic as this may sound, he could end up pushing things too far. It has already made toi uncomfortable. He needs to take a break and go to the bathroom and satisfy himself ou go take a cold douche ou something that guys do to switch out of that mode & get out of that gear. The problem is once in that gear it is hard to get out because toi don't WANT to. The blood has rushed from their brain to fill another area and that is the area they are thinking with. Many a maiden has been de-flowered that way ou that respect for her sorely lacking and tested. He HAS to learn what to do to handle that situation ou he may end up as a VERY young father. toi may end up giving in (which toi could later resent him for) ou HAVE to distance yourself and accept things. That is just my opinion, and I am not sure if it helps.

Maybe toi could form a back-up plan, some emergancy codes into your phone for a friend that might be willing to help ou something? IDK
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^////^ yes I agree with my girl MDR <3333 and indeed on what she says MDR
DarkCruz360 posted il y a plus d’un an
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Well said. Your bf has to respect your limits, and this is a discussion toi need to have when you're not in an intimate situation. toi write that he's impulsive, which is not unusual for this age. However, his actions are involving you. Have toi shown him all the bruises he's donné you? That's a start. He has to see how he's hurting you, and this isn't fun.
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Bond_Of_Fury said:
What your boyfriend is doing now is sexual harrassment. Either go to your parents, ou plus drastically, the police... if toi have bruises because of this, it's serious.

You're prob. against this, but I'd say break up with the guy. He should buy an inflatable doll if he NEEDS to have his rocks off.
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DarkCruz360 said:
I'm a GUY and to listen to other people are saying including my gf MDR (Sinna) 14/15 is wayyyyyyy too young and if the guy is very horny he should not have to force toi like that but bottom line here is that ARE toi ready for SEX are toi really sure? If your not toi should tell toi boyfriend to STOP and listen to you. I know NO ONE wants to be used nobody wants that I know that for sure. I hate to say this but toi should tell this guy to go jerk himself in the bathroom ou get him to take a really cold shower.

NOW my Girlfriend knows I'm a VERY VERY horny guy but I'm sweet I can control myself sometimes but my gf knows how to get me started like really it's soooo awesome MDR but lets just say she is not in the mood that is fine she can TELL ME ANYTHING I l’amour her I ALWAYS RESPECT my lady I am not a forceful guy I mean come on
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posted il y a plus d’un an 
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I really think this is the best answer. I know I am bias but I am NOT just saying that. toi explained a lot- and from a male perspective taht means just because toi are "randy" doesn't mean toi have to act like that and hurt ou disrespect & there toi go, from a male point of view, there should not be a conflict. Well a dit BEST answer!
Sinna_Hime_chan posted il y a plus d’un an
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Thank toi baby ^////^ <3333 yes it is a best answe MDR
DarkCruz360 posted il y a plus d’un an
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*answer MDR
DarkCruz360 posted il y a plus d’un an
karlyluvsam said:
Pressuring u is not cool !!! Im 20 years old & still a virgin . I still dont feel ready !! Just started talking about sex .. Because this person is special & were adults...

14& 15 .. is way too fucking young !!! there is allot consequence .. not only can he just be using u to get some !! but there is still a chance of pregnancy

just because others have had sex at younger ages doesn't mean toi need to too. Most of the time those events happen from drunkenness ou with a person they didn't like.\

All depends what toi really want, being with someone toi like ou just getting it over. There are people who do things for doing it and others who want to find a deeper connection.
Tell toi the true

Some people have no problem being used, toi have to consider what toi really want. Also if your prepare. Its not a good feeling to be used and then tossed away. But yeah....I share your feelings, understand where your comming from

Oh that, well everyone moves at their own speed honestly find someone who really likes toi and treassures you, takes time, like growing fruit, but its much sweeter when ready. I don't know anymore

Exactly, its your life, toi choose how to live it. Don't let someone else live it for you. Flirting is okay, just no the crossline. I guess for me I prefer someone who is honest, someone I feel secure with.....likeu can be myself.....you know
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Britt601 said:
Sounds like toi need to get another boyfriend/be single. 14/15 is WAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY too young to have sex. If he is pressuring toi into having it, let alone physically restraining you, it's time to kick his cul, ass to the curb.

This is the time that some of your peers will want to have sex/already having it and toi need to be careful. When I was in high school, people were having sex(some as early as middle school) left and right, and along with that came STD's, pregnancies, and nasty rumors than can ruin lives.

If toi feel comfortable/ready enough to do it, (I'M NOT SAYING toi SHOULD) just ask yourself are toi ready. Not for him, but for yourself.

If toi can talk to him about it and let him know that toi aren't ready, he should respect that. Don't let him pressure toi into believing that "you don't l’amour him" ou "he'll break up with toi if toi don't" becaus toi don't need someone like him.

Personally, he sounds a bit fishy enough if he's pressuring/touching toi in that manner. Maybe check out if he's being "free" behind your back.

Hope this helps. And another thing, I recommend watching this video. It's really speaking on your situation.
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Makeupdiva said:
Okay, your young, there's really no rush to having sex right away. If your not ready, your not ready. If he pressures toi again, toi say one simple word 'NO'. And it sounds like he's an ass, so if I were in your position, I'd break up with him. No guy has control over me. Just like no guy should have control over you. Break up with the guy, seriously, if he's hurting you, it could only get worse. I've read stories like these and they never turn out good. If your afraid, go to your parents, the police ou another adult. I'm just saying, breaking up with him could possibly be the best thing toi could do for you.
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posted il y a plus d’un an 
fassmackey said:
how His parents the bruises! Tell them their 'Angel' did this to me , then montrer your folks, if this is some 'i can't be without. a Bf! What wiil my Friends think!?! Then remain silent like I did. And learn how to change diapers. Stupid bitch!
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