I want toi to know you’re not alone.
Sometimes it feels like you’re the only one—the only woman in the world who flits along the line of self-reliant and dependent, tender and tough, capable and yet still longing to be loved.
There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who is comfortable in her own skin, able to live her life her own way, perfectly fine making her own decisions, and yet, totally and completely interested in finding a man to stand par her side.
There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who’s just fine when she’s single, who doesn’t need a significant other to complete her, who doesn’t feel Lost ou purposeless outside of a relationship, yet still hopes to have one.
There’s nothing wrong with being independent and strong-willed, determined and self-sufficient, and yet still l’amour to love.
Sometimes the world makes toi feel like toi have to choose one side ou the other. If you’re going to be the independent woman, then toi have to claim your singleness, right? toi have to be distant and removed. toi have to walk around with this ‘I don’t need a man’ attitude, and shun any woman who dares to lower herself par letting someone in.
And if you’re the opposite, then you’re the woman who has her relationship(s) as her central focus. The woman whose emotions and decisions are ruled par love. The woman who is continuously shifting and changing her life to accommodate a significant other and the dreams the two of them have together.
But neither of those sides feel right to you.
Because toi are not the kind of woman who sees men as obstacles in your way. toi don’t wear your independence as a badge on your chest, as an excuse to push men out of your heart. But toi don’t feel like your life purpose is to be in a relationship, to fall in love, to have someone par your side all the time.
Sometimes the world makes those sides look like polar opposites, and when you’re standing there, trying to figure out where toi fit, neither side feels healthy. Either you’re so alone ou so wrapped up in love, and even though toi know that’s not exactly how it is, toi can’t seem to find yourself fitting anywhere.
But you’re not the only one who feels this way.
You’re not the only one who feels confident and proud of who she is and wants to guard that independence, yet still wants to find someone to share her life with. You’re not the only one who values the parts of herself that have grown in her singleness, yet hopes to be in a relationship with someone who allows her to bloom both together and separate.
toi are an independent and strong woman who loves to love. toi can stand your ground, make your own choices, live your own life, yet toi enjoy dating and being connected to another person. toi are your best self when toi are a little of both—self-loving and outward-loving.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
toi don’t have to give up parts of yourself to fall into a relationship. toi don’t have to compromise your self-sufficiency, your strength, your sense of being just to let someone in. toi don’t have to feel tied down par your relationships, ou that toi are changing who toi are just to l’amour someone.
It is possible to be the girl who’s independent, and still depend on the guy she loves. It is possible to be the woman who’s strong, and even stronger with her man par her side.
So own who toi are, how toi love, the way toi feel. What the world doesn’t understand is truly how hard toi have it. toi live in a continual state of conflict. toi long to be independent and powerful, but toi crave the connection toi can have with someone else. toi want to live out your self-focused, self-driven existence, but at the same time, toi want to share your world with another person.
toi don’t want to appear to be too selfish ou self-centered, but toi don’t want to look feeble ou dependent either—it’s hard to be a strong, independent woman who loves to love.
But let this be a reminder that toi are not the only woman who has this tension. toi are not the only one who shifts back and forth, unsure of where she fits.
So own the parts of toi that flit this line. Own the parts of toi that l’amour yourself, and the parts that l’amour to love. Own the ways toi are not like either side of the world, but have made your own nook. Own the woman toi are because there is nothing wrong with her; she is a perfect mix.
Sometimes it feels like you’re the only one—the only woman in the world who flits along the line of self-reliant and dependent, tender and tough, capable and yet still longing to be loved.
There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who is comfortable in her own skin, able to live her life her own way, perfectly fine making her own decisions, and yet, totally and completely interested in finding a man to stand par her side.
There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who’s just fine when she’s single, who doesn’t need a significant other to complete her, who doesn’t feel Lost ou purposeless outside of a relationship, yet still hopes to have one.
There’s nothing wrong with being independent and strong-willed, determined and self-sufficient, and yet still l’amour to love.
Sometimes the world makes toi feel like toi have to choose one side ou the other. If you’re going to be the independent woman, then toi have to claim your singleness, right? toi have to be distant and removed. toi have to walk around with this ‘I don’t need a man’ attitude, and shun any woman who dares to lower herself par letting someone in.
And if you’re the opposite, then you’re the woman who has her relationship(s) as her central focus. The woman whose emotions and decisions are ruled par love. The woman who is continuously shifting and changing her life to accommodate a significant other and the dreams the two of them have together.
But neither of those sides feel right to you.
Because toi are not the kind of woman who sees men as obstacles in your way. toi don’t wear your independence as a badge on your chest, as an excuse to push men out of your heart. But toi don’t feel like your life purpose is to be in a relationship, to fall in love, to have someone par your side all the time.
Sometimes the world makes those sides look like polar opposites, and when you’re standing there, trying to figure out where toi fit, neither side feels healthy. Either you’re so alone ou so wrapped up in love, and even though toi know that’s not exactly how it is, toi can’t seem to find yourself fitting anywhere.
But you’re not the only one who feels this way.
You’re not the only one who feels confident and proud of who she is and wants to guard that independence, yet still wants to find someone to share her life with. You’re not the only one who values the parts of herself that have grown in her singleness, yet hopes to be in a relationship with someone who allows her to bloom both together and separate.
toi are an independent and strong woman who loves to love. toi can stand your ground, make your own choices, live your own life, yet toi enjoy dating and being connected to another person. toi are your best self when toi are a little of both—self-loving and outward-loving.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
toi don’t have to give up parts of yourself to fall into a relationship. toi don’t have to compromise your self-sufficiency, your strength, your sense of being just to let someone in. toi don’t have to feel tied down par your relationships, ou that toi are changing who toi are just to l’amour someone.
It is possible to be the girl who’s independent, and still depend on the guy she loves. It is possible to be the woman who’s strong, and even stronger with her man par her side.
So own who toi are, how toi love, the way toi feel. What the world doesn’t understand is truly how hard toi have it. toi live in a continual state of conflict. toi long to be independent and powerful, but toi crave the connection toi can have with someone else. toi want to live out your self-focused, self-driven existence, but at the same time, toi want to share your world with another person.
toi don’t want to appear to be too selfish ou self-centered, but toi don’t want to look feeble ou dependent either—it’s hard to be a strong, independent woman who loves to love.
But let this be a reminder that toi are not the only woman who has this tension. toi are not the only one who shifts back and forth, unsure of where she fits.
So own the parts of toi that flit this line. Own the parts of toi that l’amour yourself, and the parts that l’amour to love. Own the ways toi are not like either side of the world, but have made your own nook. Own the woman toi are because there is nothing wrong with her; she is a perfect mix.
