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Domestic Abuse - Help?

I have a cousin who's married to a scumbag and they have two young daughters (10 and 7). He keeps physically abusing his wife, hits her to the point where she's needed stitches on several occasions.

After he physically abuses her, he abandons her for indefinite periods of time with barely any money on her. He doesn't let her work, keeps her on lock-down financially and emotionally.

Recently they were rendered homeless, moving from one cheap motel to the next. The children had been taken out of school because they couldn't afford it, and they were living with us for a while with my cousin visiting now and again. But now my cousin took them back to her husband and he's been drinking a lot, and yesterday he hit my youngest niece pretty bad.

I don't know what to do to help them, because my cousin seems to fall for her husband's bullshit promises every single time. And her parents are equally idiots because they aren't bothered in the least about helping her.

Oh, and we don't have Child Protective Services ou whatever where I'm at.

Is there anything that can be done? I feel completely useless, and the kids are going to suffer the most and I have no idea what to do.
 Kiniko90 posted il y a plus d’un an
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BabyBlud said:
It's very sad when a family has to go such things as domestic and violent abuse, it can scar children and trust/emotions for life. This needs to be dealt with and quickly.

The reason your cousin keeps falling for her husbands promises and defends him when the authorities are called is because she loves him. She knows exactly what kind of man he is, but all she sees when she looks at him is the man she fell in l’amour with. Men like this often threaten to kill ou harm if anyone says anything about what he's doing, and his threats can seem extremely real, to the point where they become real. Your cousin will be too down-trod and depressed to realise she's better off without him. Her husband will continually tell her she's worthless and that she will never amount to anything without him, and he will tell her this so often that she will always believe him. Unfortunatly there isn't anything she can do about it until she finds the strength within herself, but her husband hitting the children is something she MUST NOT STAND FOR.

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Thank toi so much! Those liens are really helpful.. Thanks :)
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BeastBoyCahill said:
Oh, my... I'm sorry about that... but no, sorry, I can't come up with any way to help... One thing that's definite is that your cousin needs to freaking get a divorce with that freak. But if toi can't convince her... I got nothing.

OK, one small piece of conseil that I have: It's that toi should ask this question on the aléatoire club instead, it would be better. Because even though this spot is plus appropriate, really, the aléatoire club gets much plus attention. If this question were asked there, I would not be the first to answer. So...
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Thanks... I did think of posting on the aléatoire spot, but figured I'd get a lot of unserious answers.. Thanks though, for trying to help :)
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Magica said:
I don't know a whole lot about CPS, but if it's really that bad, I'm sure if toi called at another location, they'd come out to help. I don't know for sure, but there's no harm in trying.

If not, then toi could try talking to your cousin and see if she and her kids would be willing to déplacer back with you. And, well, divorce the guy.

I'm écriture this assuming toi haven't tried it yet. If toi have, then I'm not sure. I'm really sorry... wish I could do plus to help.
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Oh, um, I live in India. We don't have CPS as a country. I did try talking to her but she chooses to listen to him instead. Thanks for the answer though :)
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stramming said:
Call the cops...?
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Tried but my cousin keeps trying to protect he husband the last time we called the cops.
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Gumball17 said:
Well, no offence, but your cousin needs mental help. Until she can accept the fact that he's a scumbag, nothing is going to happen. Once she can accept that, everything should fall into place in her head and everything should work out. Hope I helped! :)
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Yeah, until she opens her eyes, I don't think there's much anyone can do I guess. Thanks for the answer :)
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dreamfields said:
If it was in the US, I could give toi advice. But, I am not familiar with the legal system in India.
Have toi spoken to your parents about the situation? Maybe family pressure could help. Are there any support groups for women? I think she and the kids need to get out from under his control. I would not reccomend her leaving though without somewhere sûr, sans danger for them to stay.
Another possibility is to seek conseil from a religous leader. I don't know which one toi follow, but I would think they would be for protecting children and hopefully the mother also.
Sorry I cann't offer any better advice. I will pray for them. Good luck & God bless.
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That's the problem though. She doesn't have a sûr, sans danger place to turn to. Thank toi for your prayers :)
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Well that's what I was afraid of. Try to be available to listen to her and l’amour her. One hard lesson I've learned is there are times we have to be willing to listen without talking. Eventually that builds trust where the other person will listen to what toi say. Of course I will keep toi all in my prayers.
dreamfields posted il y a plus d’un an
cuteypuffgirl said:
First of all I want to say I'm sorry. No human being should go through that pain.

Secondly, I believe your cousin keeps defending him because she loves him. A divorce could've worked but only if the latter would agree. toi could call the cops and convince your cousin how her life would improve drastically if she turned him in because in the end domestic abuse is abuse. She needs to understand that sometimes we have to do things we don't want to but have to. The police are the only solution. That ou talk some sense into your cousin and consult her parents and your parents. Best of luck.
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Thanks for the answer :)
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