Hello, everyone. Antonia here, and I decided to do a blog on questions I'm frequently asked about being asexual. As I mentioned in the Introduction Blog, I am asexual. I first discovered that when I was fourteen. I was bullied in school because of it. If you're not sure what asexual is, this should educate you, (I hope). Here it goes.
1. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean toi don't date?
A: No. All asexual means is that you're not sexually attracted to anyone. Romance is totally different. Some asexuals are aromantic, but some of them are romantic. Romantically speaking, I could go either way, but I prefer males.
2. Q: Are toi an alien?
A: No, I am not an alien. If toi want to see aliens, watch a sci-fi film.
3. Q: Since you're not dating someone, are toi lonely?
A: No, I'm not lonely. I have friends. Friendship can be just as rewarding as romance, if not more. Honestly, the only reason I haven't dated is I'm afraid of getting hurt. I've had good Friends who have been hurt in romance, and I know it could very easily happen to me.
4. Q: How do toi know you're asexual?
A: toi just know. That's really difficult to answer. There are different types of asexuals out there, and in the end, toi know how toi feel. Don't listen to anyone who tells toi otherwise.
5. Q: Do toi think you'll change your mind when the "right person" comes along?
A: No, I won't change my mind. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not a choice. Besides, the "right person" would understand my needs and desires.
6. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean you're repulsed par sex/the idea of it?
A: No. Sexual orientation and sexual desire are actually two different things. I am repulsed par the idea of sex, but I don't reject it entirely.
7. Q: Are toi asexual for religious purposes?
A: No, I'm not even religious. I'm spiritual, though. Asexuality is not celibacy. Celibacy is a choice. Asexuality is not a choice.
8. Q: What is the worst part about being asexual?
A: Probably the ridicule I've faced for it.
9. Q: What is the best part about being asexual?
A: I'm not sure. I guess the fact that it makes toi an individual.
10. Q: Does it annoy toi when people misconstrue your being asexual?
A: Yes.
I hope toi enjoyed this blog. There are plus blogs to come.
Peace and love,
-Antonia
1. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean toi don't date?
A: No. All asexual means is that you're not sexually attracted to anyone. Romance is totally different. Some asexuals are aromantic, but some of them are romantic. Romantically speaking, I could go either way, but I prefer males.
2. Q: Are toi an alien?
A: No, I am not an alien. If toi want to see aliens, watch a sci-fi film.
3. Q: Since you're not dating someone, are toi lonely?
A: No, I'm not lonely. I have friends. Friendship can be just as rewarding as romance, if not more. Honestly, the only reason I haven't dated is I'm afraid of getting hurt. I've had good Friends who have been hurt in romance, and I know it could very easily happen to me.
4. Q: How do toi know you're asexual?
A: toi just know. That's really difficult to answer. There are different types of asexuals out there, and in the end, toi know how toi feel. Don't listen to anyone who tells toi otherwise.
5. Q: Do toi think you'll change your mind when the "right person" comes along?
A: No, I won't change my mind. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not a choice. Besides, the "right person" would understand my needs and desires.
6. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean you're repulsed par sex/the idea of it?
A: No. Sexual orientation and sexual desire are actually two different things. I am repulsed par the idea of sex, but I don't reject it entirely.
7. Q: Are toi asexual for religious purposes?
A: No, I'm not even religious. I'm spiritual, though. Asexuality is not celibacy. Celibacy is a choice. Asexuality is not a choice.
8. Q: What is the worst part about being asexual?
A: Probably the ridicule I've faced for it.
9. Q: What is the best part about being asexual?
A: I'm not sure. I guess the fact that it makes toi an individual.
10. Q: Does it annoy toi when people misconstrue your being asexual?
A: Yes.
I hope toi enjoyed this blog. There are plus blogs to come.
Peace and love,
-Antonia
When I had entered the fifth grade, I was dreading it. I had heard rumors that the teacher was really mean. When I met her before school started, she seemed really nice. On the first jour of school, I was wearing one of my Beatles t-shirts. She noticed it, and she said, "Darling, I l’amour toi already!" I said, "Okay, then." She would take up for me all the time. The other kids often called me glasses. She heard them and said, "She has a name, guys. Her name is not glasses. It's Winter." There was one jour when another girl kept picking on me. I finally had enough and said, "I might look sweet and innocent, but that shit is for suckers, and I'm no lollipop." I looked at the teacher. She winked and said, "I heard nothing." I would have had her for the sixth grade, too, but unfortunately, I moved to Tennessee as soon as the school an was over. We both cried. We promised to keep in touch with each other, and we've kept in touch to this day.