Peaceandlove67 Article: Asexual faq Blog

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posted by Peaceandlove67

Hello, everyone. Antonia here, and I decided to do a blog on questions I'm frequently asked about being asexual. As I mentioned in the Introduction Blog, I am asexual. I first discovered that when I was fourteen. I was bullied in school because of it. If you're not sure what asexual is, this should educate you, (I hope). Here it goes.

1. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean toi don't date?
A: No. All asexual means is that you're not sexually attracted to anyone. Romance is totally different. Some asexuals are aromantic, but some of them are romantic. Romantically speaking, I could go either way, but I prefer males.

2. Q: Are toi an alien?
A: No, I am not an alien. If toi want to see aliens, watch a sci-fi film.

3. Q: Since you're not dating someone, are toi lonely?
A: No, I'm not lonely. I have friends. Friendship can be just as rewarding as romance, if not more. Honestly, the only reason I haven't dated is I'm afraid of getting hurt. I've had good Friends who have been hurt in romance, and I know it could very easily happen to me.

4. Q: How do toi know you're asexual?
A: toi just know. That's really difficult to answer. There are different types of asexuals out there, and in the end, toi know how toi feel. Don't listen to anyone who tells toi otherwise.

5. Q: Do toi think you'll change your mind when the "right person" comes along?
A: No, I won't change my mind. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not a choice. Besides, the "right person" would understand my needs and desires.

6. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean you're repulsed par sex/the idea of it?
A: No. Sexual orientation and sexual desire are actually two different things. I am repulsed par the idea of sex, but I don't reject it entirely.

7. Q: Are toi asexual for religious purposes?
A: No, I'm not even religious. I'm spiritual, though. Asexuality is not celibacy. Celibacy is a choice. Asexuality is not a choice.

8. Q: What is the worst part about being asexual?
A: Probably the ridicule I've faced for it.

9. Q: What is the best part about being asexual?
A: I'm not sure. I guess the fact that it makes toi an individual.

10. Q: Does it annoy toi when people misconstrue your being asexual?
A: Yes.

I hope toi enjoyed this blog. There are plus blogs to come.

Peace and love,
-Antonia

RetroRock64, Roldan13 and 3 others like this

ktichenor Wonderful article! Bravo!

80smusiclover1 I couldn't agree more. Another job well done, buddy!

Rubyrings Yes, very well written. I'm really liking your blogs so far!

BingoPB Great job, Antonia. This is very educational. I am asexual myself. I'm glad you were available to be the first person to talk to about it.

Peaceandlove67 Thanks, everyone.

Roldan13 Great blog, Antonia.

RetroRock64 Yes. It was very educational.

Peaceandlove67 Thank you so much!

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New Religion: The First Tour Final Part

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It was the last night of New Religion's tour. After playing most of the songs from their album, they played a few cover songs, including System of a Down's "Ego Brain". That song had helped Erin through many, many hard times. Towards the end of the concert, Erin decided to play the final song. She said, "I'm going to play the last song. Many of toi who ever received an autograph from me may ou may not have noticed that I always sign right-handed, yet I always play guitare left-handed. Well, here's the reason. I do this in memory of my dear friend, Barry. He was a big Paul McCartney fan. When...

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New Religion: The First Tour Part 5

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Some weeks passed, and the members of New Religion were asked to give another interview. The interviewer asked, "How did toi all meet?" Erin said, "We all met in high school, except Paul and I met before then." Paul said, "Erin and I met in the eighth grade. She had recently Lost her best friend, and she was depressed. I knew she needed a friend." Lola said, "They later met me and Carl in high school, and we started a band." The interviewer asked, "How did toi come up with the name, New Religion?" Erin said, "Well, when I was a kid, I thought I was a Christian, but I started to become disillusioned...

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New Religion: The First Tour Part 4

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It was close to Christmas. The members of New Religion decided to go spend time was their families. Sadly, Erin's grandmother passed away. It was devastating for Erin. When New Religion picked up their tour, many people wanted to interview Erin. Lola said, "She Lost a loved one. How do toi think she's doing?!" Carl said, "Erin needs time to mourn her grandmother. She doesn't need a microphone in her face." Paul said, "She's been through so much. Leave her alone!" Erin thanked her Friends for standing up for her. She later said, "I now know how Paul McCartney felt after John Lennon got shot." Lola hugged her. Things did get better for Erin with time. She Lost so many she loved, but she kept going and never gave up.

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New Religion: The First Tour Part 3

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One day, the members of New Religion went on a hiking trail. During the hike, Paul got carried away and did not pay attention to the slope in front of him. He took a hard fall. His mates rushed to the slope. They could see him lying on the hard ground. "Paul!" They cried. "Are toi okay?!" He grunted in response. Lola said, "Oh, no! He's hurt!" Erin carefully made her way down to Paul. Carl and Lola followed. Erin knelt down beside of her friend. He groaned in pain. She said, "Talk to me, Paul." He said, "I think I've broken my leg." Lola and Carl made it to Paul. Carl asked, "Paul, do toi think...

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New Religion: The First Tour Part 2

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New Religion: The First Tour Part 1

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plus populaire Than Jésus Final Part

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plus populaire Than Jésus Part 6

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Lying on the snow-covered ground, injured, I was sure I was going to die. I then saw the owner of the house approaching me. I had seen him in his yard on many occasions, but I never saw him up close until that day. He knelt down beside me. He asked, "What are toi doing out here par yourself?" I faintly said, "I got Lost in the blizzard." He noticed the blood-stained pants leg. He said, "You don't look so good. You're pale." He then pulled up my pants leg and saw my leg was badly wounded. He said, "You're badly hurt, too. I better get toi to a hospital." He picked me up to carry me to his truck....

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plus populaire Than Jésus Part 5

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I continued walking through the forest. It was so cold. I could hear the snow crunching under my feet. Suddenly, it began to snow. I couldn't really see where I was going. I made another step, and I heard a snapping sound. Immediately after the snapping sound, I felt a sharp, stabbing pain in my leg. I thought, I must've broken my leg. I'll try to get up to see the damage. When I tried to get up, it felt like something was keeping me from getting off the ground. It was almost as if I was chained. I uncovered a hunter's trap in the snow. Grandpa had shown me how to disassemble a hunter's trap...

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plus populaire Than Jésus Part 4

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It was a Saturday morning. I had spent Friday night with my grandparents. Grandpa took me accueil Saturday afternoon. Father was waiting at the door. He said, "Ellie, toi have homework this weekend." I said, "I already did it last night, Father. I did it before going to Grandma and Grandpa's. Don't toi remember?" Father glared at me and said, "Don't get smart with me, Ellie." I said, "I'm not being smart with you. I'm telling the truth." He said, "Let me give toi what my father gave me." He slapped me across the face. The forced knocked me to the ground. Grandpa put himself between me and Father...

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plus populaire Than Jésus Part 3

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plus populaire Than Jésus Part 2

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Every Sunday, my parents and I would go to my grandparents' house. Grandma always fixed a nice lunch. After helping Grandma wash the dishes, I would go outside, weather permitting. Usually, I'd find Grandpa sitting under the big White Oak in his garden area. Often, his Alaskan Malamute, which he named Wolf, would sit suivant to him. One Sunday, he said, "Hi, Ellie. Why don't toi rejoindre me?" I did. Grandpa actually introduced Mother to the Beatles. I asked him about John Lennon's statement about the Beatles being "more populaire than Jesus." Grandpa said, "That John. He was always very opinionated...

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plus populaire Than Jésus Part 1

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It was my twelfth birthday. After the celebration, I was in the study room, browsing the Internet on my computer. As I was browsing the Internet, I saw something that caught my attention. It was a heading that said, "Today is the 50th anniversary of when John Lennon a dit that the Beatles are plus populaire than Jesus." I was curious. I thought, Is that why Father doesn't like the fact that Mother and I are Beatles fans? Now, I knew a bit about the Beatles. I knew that they were extremely populaire in the 60's. I knew that they were synonymous with the British Invasion. I knew about the Paul is...

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The Early Life of John Wilde Final Part

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The Devil Wants Peace
After high school, Allen, Peter, and I met Stan, and he became our drummer. After we became famous, I had a cabine built in the mountains. Despite the fact I no longer lived with him, Uncle Bob continued to support our band until he was tragically killed in a car crash. I blamed myself at first, because I had a bad argument with him before he died, but in a dream, he told me he forgave me. I later dated an incredible woman named Violet. It didn't work out, unfortunately. Thankfully, it ended on good terms, and we're still good friends, but we just don't function as lovers....

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The Early Life of John Wilde Part 7

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High School
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The Early Life of John Wilde Part 6

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No Stable Place
Aside from Uncle Bob, the only other family members who paid me any mind were my grandparents. My grandfather passed away about a an and a half after my father's untimely death. My grandmother lived until I started high school. When she was alive, I could always go to her with a problem. Every time I would have a bad jour at school, I would go to her. She would say, "Tell me what's wrong, John." I would tell her what was wrong, and she would make everything better. When she passed away when I started high school, I was devastated. Now I had no one to go to when I had a bad day. That's when my record listening became plus frequent. Other than my dog, Beatle, it was my only source of comfort. I really missed having a person to talk to. I missed having someone who listened to me. When he wasn't working, I could call Uncle Bob and talk to him, but it wasn't the same. Grandma seemed to have an answer for everything. Nobody else seemed to have that gift.

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The Early Life of John Wilde Part 5

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Uncle Bob
When my father was alive, Uncle Bob didn't come to Devil's Garden often. After my father died, he came as often as he could. Uncle Bob was my father's older brother. He never married and never had children. Still, he was to be my legal guardian if something happened to both of my parents. Of course, I would later end up living with him anyway, but that's another story. It was close to Thanksgiving, and Uncle Bob came in. It was the last jour of school before Thanksgiving Break, but I wasn't feeling well. My mother tried to force me to go to school, but I didn't want to move. My muscles...

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The Early Life of John Wilde Part 4

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Farewell, My Childhood
It was July 22, 1983. I will never forget that rendez-vous amoureux, date as long as I live. It was perhaps the worst jour of my life, the jour I had to Kiss my childhood goodbye. I visited with my grandparents that day. I really enjoyed hanging out with them. My mother took my sisters on a shopping spree. My father had to work. I was twelve, and my father didn't trust me at accueil par myself. I asked to stay with my grandparents until after dinner. My father picked me up to take me home. Along the way, a truck ran a red light and hit the car. It happened so quickly, but I remember it so vividly....

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The Early Life of John Wilde Part 3

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A guitare and the Two Beatles
December 8, 1980 was a rendez-vous amoureux, date that I will never forget. I had been to an event with the school band. My father and I were heading home. It was late at night, and we were listening to the radio. I will never forget the news. John Lennon had been shot and killed. My father tried to hide it, but he couldn't help it. He just had to cry. I asked, "Father, was he your friend?" My father dried his tears and said, "No, son, I never met him. I only knew of him. He was a member of the British band, the Beatles." I was curious and asked him to tell me more. He told me about how...

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The Early Life of John Wilde Part 2

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Gaining Friends
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