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In homosexual relationships, is there really always a dominant partner and a submissive one? ou is that just a stereotype?

In allot of yaoi there's semes and ukes. And in allot of media, there's always a plus effeminate partner that's the receiver.
I'm just wondering if those don't really reflect what actually goes on in reality.
I think people think that way because their used to the idea of men and women being together. SO whenever they picture two men together, one of them is playing the masculine role, while the other isn't.
I know there is such a thing as versatility, but i don't really want to end up carrying the wrong idea about something like that in my head.
 MasterOfFear posted il y a plus d’un an
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Cinders said:
I wouldn't say this is the case at all, any plus than it would be the case in a heterosexual relationship. Both men (or both women) see and treat each other as equals, and they often switch roles during sex.

There will always be social situations where one partner is plus skilled and/or populaire than the other, and that happens in all relationships. But in the end, it's all about trust and respect, and toi can't have that if one partner is always dominant.

I make the same argument for heterosexual couples. Often, the "submissive" partner feels confined ou controlled when the dominant partner is always making all of the decisions and basically trying to control the relationship. Or, if a partner always wants to be submissive, the "dominant" partner may feel neglected, worn out frustrated with the fact that s/he always has to be the "bad guy." Additionally, the dominant partner in a relationship isn't always the man. A good example of this in pop culture might be Tom and Lynette Scavo from Desperate Housewives. Her personality is clearly plus domineering than his laid-back world-view.

It's one of the reasons I don't like the fact that the Edward/Bella relationship in Twilight is depicted as healthy, when Bella clearly isn't treated as an equal par Edward, but as something he needs to protect. But that's a digression. :o)
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It should always be equal, if not it's overbearing, I agree.
Vixie79 posted il y a plus d’un an
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adultswimperson said:
Didn't toi just ask this on the aléatoire club this morning?
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posted il y a plus d’un an 
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Yes. But some one advised me to ask on here. a dit something about me hassling less people if i were to ask on here, but the results will probably be the same.
MasterOfFear posted il y a plus d’un an
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@MasterOfFear, Good point.
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BabyBlud said:
Each relationship, whether gay ou straight is all about the equal rights between the partners. Unless you're into the slave/master theme, then each partner has a responsibility to be the dominant and the reciever at some point during the relationship.
It all depends on what toi and your partner want out of the relationship and which role toi so wish to play a part in.
Most relationships aren't like this, they're just equal to each other.
Although in my experience, plus of my female gay Friends seem to have the dominant/submissive type, while my male gay Friends are both submissive and equal to each other. So i guess it all depends on your personality and what toi hope to achieve out of the relationship yourself.
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trusgold said:
There is a fairly large segment that meets that demographic. I understand why toi may want to stereotype gay couples as that combination. That is but one segment, some couples are both versatile and egalitarian. In rare cases toi find the plus effeminate one makes the decision and the masculine partner just sits back and goes with it. toi probably notice these same dynamics exist in hetero relationships. There are plus similarities than differences between couple gay ou str8. I gave just 3 examples.
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