toi know when toi look at them and get weak in the legs and that toi can't breath when they smile at toi ou (sorry for saying a twilight line) it's no longer gravitey holding toi to earth it's them. toi think about him/her all the time and you'll know.
toi don't know, really. toi just have to trust yourself.
I don't think it's about shortness of breath ou weak knees ou anything. I think it's about understanding and the willingness to put up with their flaws, no matter how severe. If you're hoping for the person to change in one way ou another, then it's probably not the right person.