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Princesses Disney For which of these traits would toi not like Mulan
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under-confident of her abilities
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would have gotten married for tradition - not for l’amour
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Others (please specify)
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Disobeys family rituals
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unsure of her role
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I think if anything her lack of flaws despite the movie telling us she's grown now is what I don't like.
She could have simply memorized the Final Admonition. Not to mention, she could have at the very least thought of a man's name to dub herself sometime between leaving home to entering the camp.
Coming from Asian culture through and through, "disrespecting family rituals" are often confused with "speaking up your mind", esp in case of woman. Which i think is very disrespectful to woman as an individual that they should never speak up their mind, not for good of others and not for themselves. They should stay indoors, covered up. I can somewhat say that she could have spoken to him privately and expressed her concerns but sometimes love and care for our loved ones overwhelms us.
Let me tell you that while arranged marriages have been successful coz divorce wasn't an option and a divorced woman was a huge taboo in society. Woman thought of tolerating their partners much more than tolerating acutely abusive society over your marital status. Having said that i don't believe that arrange marriages are all bad and love marriages are all good. The problem here is of not having a choice or a say. One should not force/pressurize anyone into a specific career, a lifestyle, marriage, kids, divorce. They should be very much an individual's own choice. Not everyone thinks about these things in same way. Not every girl gets ready to marry at age of 25, exact. Some feel stable about it at 18, some at 30, some never. What i meant to say was one should not marry out of expectations, but should do so when they feel its right thing to do for them
Let me tell you that not all arranged marriages are denied divorce. Lots of arranged marriages are optional where no one is being forced into anything they don't want.
"In today’s society, arranged marriages are looked down upon because, as many argue, not having the right to choose one’s partner is cruel. People of the West reason that only the person who is to marry can decide whom s/he wishes to spend the rest of his/her life with, which leads to a successful marriage. On the other hand, people of South Asia and the Middle East claim that the elders of the family have the final say over the marriage for they have seen the world and know that a successful marriage is not just a uniting of two people, but of two families....Arranged marriages, whether arranged-love marriage or pure-arranged marriage, are based on principles of success.... When parents arrange the marriage of their children, they make sure that the families will be able to get along quite well, by making sure that the families have relatively the same expectations of the couple, so that neither husband nor wife feels burdened to please either set of parents. Compatibility comprises of a few subcategories: caste, economic status, social status, education, family reputation, interests and the man and woman’s expectations. Families try to make sure that these subcategories are quite similar so that the couple does not have meaningless arguments." (link By Sarosh Abrar)
"He has interviewed more than 100 couples in arranged marriages to assess their strength of feeling and studied his findings against more than 30 years of research into love in Western and arranged marriages. His work suggests that feelings of love in love matches begin to fade by as much as a half in 18 months, whereas the love in the arranged marriages tends to grow gradually, surpassing the love in the unarranged marriages at about the five-year mark. Ten years on, the affection felt by those in arranged marriages is typically twice as strong." (link)
Even though, i have myself gone in love marriage but i did make him meet my parents and sought their approval. I'm sure i'd have been open to listen to their apprehensions - about different financial status, different sub-cultural background. But having said that 'd have also tried to make them see how he's better than others and i'll be able to deal with adjustments when required out of love and respect. Eventually, i do believe at the last, it should be left to the person getting married, to take the final call - coz success and failure would depend on how much they worked on their relationship and no-one else should be blamed/credited for either except the people married together.
Yes, we see the influence of America in India as well. A lot of youngsters don't want to listen at all, out of rigidity and misplaced concept of love marriages being better than arrange marriages. Whether arranged or love, it should not be forced/expected/pressurized at the end of the day.
Both cases you described can be detrimental but that doesn't mean that they always are.
No one is saying the person getting married can't or shouldn't have the final call so I don't know why you keep bringing that up as though we disagree? I am simply saying "accepting an arranged marriage" overall, or as the option you gave said "would have gotten married for tradition - not for love ", should not be seen as a "flaw" in someone because it is their choice and that is a difference of culture, not a flaw. It is exactly reasons like this why I am always hesitant towards Disney making a non-Caucasian princess. Some people will see cultural differences as flaws instead of respecting them.
I don't dislike any of traits that were mentioned. Not all traditions deserve to exist. Her willingness to become a part of arranged marriage isn't flaw, it's admirable selflessness. I prefer Mulan than princess Mei from the sequel( most annoying Disney female ever to me).
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