aagh! I accidentally deleted this when I was trying to éditer it. here it is again with a new title:
Bella could have gotten over Edward in New Moon and even had a real relationship with Jacob in time, but she wouldn't let herself. She felt that moving on would diminish ou discredit her twu wuv with Edward and the pain she felt after he left. She wants to believe she can't get over it because she wants to believe that what they had was extraordinary, not like any other teenage romance. She wants to believe no one else in the world can relate to what she's going through. She was alone because she put her pain on this egotistical pedestal. Her's was grander, deeper, plus irreparable than all else. Healing is for other people with lesser wounds from lesser loves.
Even if she can no longer have Edward, Bella wants to hang onto the fantaisie that she had the greatest l’amour of all time, something epic. And so she turns herself into a martyr, suffering indescribable, incurable pain forever after. That's the way I think Meyer sees it when she describes the way Bella cuts herself off from everyone as "beautiful." She and Bella see it as Bella generously saving everyone else from sharing her eternal pain par suffering alone. What she's really doing is preventing the possibility of healing in order to preserve her fantaisie of grandeur.
I think all people sometimes feel like this to some (much lesser) degree. We don't want to recover because then it makes us look foolish for having been so over-dramatic, jouer la comédie like it was the end of the world. We déplacer on though, not because our pain wasn't real, but because we are mature enough to realize that our emotions had exaggerated our outlook on life. It takes humility and personal growth and courage. Bella's refusal to do this is the epitome of immaturity.
What do toi think?