"I've found that a substantial fraction of many people's days is spent worrying about what others think of them. If nobody ever worried about what was in other people's heads, we'd all be 33 percent plus effective in our lives and on our jobs.
How did I come up with 33 percent? I'm a scientist. I like exact numbers, even if I can't always prove them. So let's just run with 33 percent.
I used to tell antone who worked in my research group: "You don't ever have to worry about what I'm thinking. Good ou bad, I'll let toi know what's in my head."
That meant when I wasn't happy about something, I spoke up, often directly and not always tactfully. But on the positive side, I was able to reassure people: "If I haven't a dit anything, toi have nothing to worry about."
Students and colleagues came to appreciate that, and they didn't waste a lot of time obsessing over. "What is Randy thinking?" Because mostly, what I was thinking was this: I have people on my team who are 33 percent plus effective than everyone else. That's what was in my head.
How did I come up with 33 percent? I'm a scientist. I like exact numbers, even if I can't always prove them. So let's just run with 33 percent.
I used to tell antone who worked in my research group: "You don't ever have to worry about what I'm thinking. Good ou bad, I'll let toi know what's in my head."
That meant when I wasn't happy about something, I spoke up, often directly and not always tactfully. But on the positive side, I was able to reassure people: "If I haven't a dit anything, toi have nothing to worry about."
Students and colleagues came to appreciate that, and they didn't waste a lot of time obsessing over. "What is Randy thinking?" Because mostly, what I was thinking was this: I have people on my team who are 33 percent plus effective than everyone else. That's what was in my head.
So I have this guy friend. His name is will not be mentioned but his code name is Dr.Spazz ok?
So Dr.Spazz used to be SUPER nice to me and I started liking him. I don't anymore because he's been a jerk to me lately. I have had a rough few months due to my grandfather dying. He was nice to me for a bit then was a jerk again. I started being a jerk right back. And then my good friend, she will be named as the pegasister, told me he called me nice. Even though I have been nothing but a jerk to him he called me nice?!?! I was shocked! Then I told my best friend, who will be named as the dog whisperer. I told her and she thought I started liking Dr.Spazz again. Which I don't! She knows now but he called me nice and I feel like a TOTAL jerk now. What should I do even though we never talk about stuff like this?
So Dr.Spazz used to be SUPER nice to me and I started liking him. I don't anymore because he's been a jerk to me lately. I have had a rough few months due to my grandfather dying. He was nice to me for a bit then was a jerk again. I started being a jerk right back. And then my good friend, she will be named as the pegasister, told me he called me nice. Even though I have been nothing but a jerk to him he called me nice?!?! I was shocked! Then I told my best friend, who will be named as the dog whisperer. I told her and she thought I started liking Dr.Spazz again. Which I don't! She knows now but he called me nice and I feel like a TOTAL jerk now. What should I do even though we never talk about stuff like this?
I’m honestly getting sick and tired of listening to my best friend who is constantly bragging about how a foreign surfer dude was hitting on her at the beach. During her visit to Australia, she was at that famous plage and apparently this “tall and muscular hunk” approached her and asked if she was single. They exchanged numbers but a few days after that, she flew back here. Since her arrival, she never heard from him again. I wish I could claque, smack her in the face with the truth that there was never going to be anything between them ‘cause one, they’re in a long distance situation and two, she doesn’t even know his name!
Sorry for the rant, I just really needed to get this off my chest. But if toi guys have any suggestions and conseil for me regarding this, that would be awesome. Thanks a bunch.
Sorry for the rant, I just really needed to get this off my chest. But if toi guys have any suggestions and conseil for me regarding this, that would be awesome. Thanks a bunch.
My good friend was convinced to rejoindre this weird event thing called an a romance tour (i think it’s called?). He’s too shy to go alone so he’s asking me to accompany him. He a dit that he’ll take care of my expenses since he’s kind of excited about attending one. But in my opinion, this doesn't really seem like something I would consider spending money on. There are a couple of things that make me want to go, since it’s travelling to an international country, and hey, I might actually meet someone there. Is it a big waste of time and money ou should i just go for the hell of it? I got nothing better to do anyway.
I'm female. I have had girl crushes before, but I usually have boy crushes. I have had daydreams about being with girls I like, and I sometimes fantasize my first Kiss being with a girl. Most quizz I take say I'm bisexual. Me and my friend, who is a girl, almost kissed back in first grade but I decided that I couldn't do it. My Friends and family are very homophobic and I am also a Christian. I will never tell my family about these feelings because they would disown me if I did. Same with my friends. I also feel like I'm not a good Christian ou that I will go to Hell because I think I might be bisexual. I also think that I might be forming a crush on a girl now. What do I do guys?!
Travelling to different countries in Asia this an with my girlfriend and I’m considering if I should just book with a travel agency rather than making arrangements on my own. We’re both thinking about going to Singapore, Vietnam, Malaysia, Thailand, and Cambodia. I’ve seen Multiple city singles tours packages which are rather affordable. It already includes flight tickets, a 4-star accommodation for the whole trip, city tour in each country, and all-day meals. Should I just get this kind of package?